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Birthday Cake!

Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Romans 12:10

So, I turned 28 last week. What? It’s believable! Ok Ok Ok, I’m in my 40s. My birthday week blew me away with the realization of the quality of my friends and family. I was given TWO surprise parties and my husband whisked me away like a princess in a castle, to the Broadmoor Hotel, with a giant, glorious moat between me and my kids, otherwise known as Interstate 25. Is it bad that I waved goodbye and never looked back? No early wakeup squeals, no meals to cook, no late night dance party rocking my floor from below, no laundry, enough for a small nation, and no school driving in which I burn a deep groove into the Powers Corridor. Of course, I LOVE being a mom but this was a much needed break.

I was completely pampered this year and it made me think….I’ve never had so many people in my life who meaningfully care about me. One major factor is that I made it a goal this year to invest in and pursue people who I see having a very specific quality, a quality that is “can you hear the angels harmonize” holy, philosophically rich and highfalutin. Drum roll please. That quality is… I enjoy them.

You know when you talk with a person and it’s just sweet and magnetic, like a bee in a jam trap? I’ve made it a priority to go after those mutual and interesting people. I don’t overload on these friends but pour into a few that really matter. Our lives should definitely also include reaching out to difficult people who need some help in their life journey and we should regularly invest in close friends. If all of life is duty and we lose the element of relational fun, we aren’t as productive and our lives aren’t as contagious. If we are burnt out on our lives, why would anybody else find us great to be around? My husband, Daniel, said this at a conference recently, “Having a healthy soul is the best gift we can give this year.” I feel spoiled this birthday, not just by the gifts, parties and fun but also with one of the things that contributes greatly to my heart health- true friends.

One of my dear friends made me homemade chocolate cupcakes. Good, melt in your mouth English chocolate or a fudgy, deep chocolate cake… Oh, my my my, goodbye Vibrant Life Diet; it was nice knowing you! It’s bad. I had to practice saying no to chocolate, no joke! I read that the more you say no, the better you get at it. And, that was true for me. But, since it’s my birthday and time to celebrate, I am giving you a recipe that is both reasonably healthy and decadent to use for a special day. I changed my friend’s recipe to make it lower glycemic and added coffee to bring out the chocolate’s depth. These chocolate cupcakes are gluten free and very low on sugar but delicious. They are for your once a week treat for sure but a MUCH better option.

This recipe is delicious and fairly low on sugar “as is” but for an even healthier, lower sugar cupcake, follow these instructions.

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When making the batter, follow the directions but use only 5 eggs, add 1/4 C of strong coffee and use dark chocolate chips instead (I used Tollhouse Dark Chocolate Chip Morsels for convenience but there are probably healthier dark chocolates than that). Leave the frosting as it is (I tried to use the dark chips in the frosting and it had too much bite but worked fine in the cake itself). I doubled the frosting portion of the recipe. Also, an important step is allowing the frosting to sufficiently cool so it thickens. Begin with the frosting. Enjoy ❤️.

http://www.thepaleomom.com/2012/06/chocolate-cupcakes-with-ganache.html

Keep running! Next post… How I went from beginning to develop health issues to vibrant!

Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice

Healthy Apple Turnover

You know, it’s the weirdest thing; I came home the other day and noticed one of our Golden Retrievers was sitting in the outdoor kennel with the door shut. The kids informed me that Coco (short for Coconut) always does that, locks herself in a cage when she has acreage to run free. It really made me think- do I ever do that?

Three years ago, let’s say, I would have honestly said that I didn’t feel bound up. But, in the same way that Coco doesn’t see that she’s unnecessarily locking herself in a cage, I now look back and see areas like that in my life. Sobering but SO GOOD to realize there’s a door and wide open glorious field! Some changes in me this year have been… I stopped just saying all the things I wanted to do and started doing them. In a new way, I started expecting to be treated with respect and mutuality. I started believing, that one step at a time and with God’s help, I could achieve big things. So, I bow my more cage- free head today and thank God for his many gifts and lessons.

While it’s not unique to a certain gender, I think the tender, nurturing aspect of women makes us particularly prone to being bound by the opinions of others. Often these messages, early on, make their way into the female head. I know my own girls have battled at different times with this, while often the boys say, “who cares,” and mean it.

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Speaking of my lovely girls, may I introduce you to them? Juliette is 19 and has become a beautiful woman in her own right. She loves children, music, photography, is direct and has a huge heart. Caetlin and Hannah are two years apart and, together, feisty but inseparable. One sees everything in black and white, is decisive, direct, organized and also flamboyantly creative and loves color. The other is in love with all the options and, so, struggles to “land the plane”, nostalgic, more free spirited and disorganized, joyful and giggles constantly. They really are hysterical best friends who adore and drive each other crazy too. The joyful one makes the organized one roll her eyes and the organized one makes the joyful one giggle even more.

Now that I’ve introduced you to all of my kids, you may ask any questions that you want, because I realize 7 children is a curiosity in this day and age. However, since we are currently suffering from DTSD (During Teenage Stress Disorder), please be kind and refrain from any eye rolls while typing or words like “whatevs,” “YOLO” or “jaykay.” Besides, you would sound ludicrous because parents can’t be hipsters; didn’t you know that? I’ve been told it’s embarrassing. Who knew- they prefer dated, irrelevant, parents, who drive their 1970’s broken down VW van to pick them up, sport high waisted, pleated and pegged jeans, ask your best friend for the “411” on their weekend and hum and headbang to “Eye of the Tiger” with their teeth over their bottom lip because they are that baaaad. Actually, while there are, sometimes, the usual teenagy kind of days, our kids have great hearts and don’t abuse us too badly. 🙂 In fact, they are really funny.

Sometimes, I will share recipes from other bloggers that are full of healthy ingredients, delicious and tested by Mwa. 🙂 Below is a link for a gluten free, low glycemic Apple Turnover that my entire family LOVED, creating a stampede in the kitchen, as they all went sniffing for seconds, only to come out of the kitchen with long faces, because I made only one each. For most of my family, I would top this with an icecream made from sugar and not high fructose corn syrup. Here’s the deal, folks, I have to work them all into these things and these healthy Apple Turnovers were enough of a stretch for one sitting. I tried to top these with a healthy coconut ice-cream and that part was NOT a hit. But, the turnovers ROCKED! Even though these are full of good things, like ground almond meal and coconut milk, anyone following The Vibrant Life Diet, should count them as a weekly treat. This is the kind of treat I would have if I was losing weight well, didn’t want to set myself back with a really heavy duty treat but needed a little break, because weekly treats are like a mini vaca to Aruba! For myself, I would either have them plain or would whip up the following and put a large tablespoonful on top:

Greek Yoghurt Vanilla Desert Topping

1/2 Cup of Fat Free Plain Greek Yoghurt
1 teaspoon Chia Seeds
2 packets of Stevia

1/8 tsp of Vanilla

Additional Vibrant Life topping ideas: Crumbled unsalted pecans, use some remaining apple mixture combined with crumbled pecans, fresh raspberries or a combo of these.

http://myheartbeets.com/paleo-apple-turnover/

Boy Worthy BBQ

“What are little boys made of, made of? Snips and snails and puppy-dog tails… What are young men made of? Sighs and leers and crocodile tears… What are all folks made of? Fighting a spot and loving a lot.” -Southey

Daniel and I have 7 children. You read that right- 7! Yes, we know how they are made, for those of you who have asked that cheeky question, thinking we’ve somehow blundered into this, like a whale in a plastic blow up pool in the front garden. No, we didn’t calculate what it would cost to raise them. No, we had no clue about the amount of laundry or the driving I would have to do. And, yes, it is a glorious disaster most of the time, with a schedule that a military general would struggle to maintain, details and needs roughly 3.5 times the average American family, crazy conflicts and messes, that can happen faster than you can say Spicey Molasses BBQ Sauce, BUT a whole lot of love, meaning, and joy too!

This week, I want to introduce you to my boys- Joab, Isaak,  Elias and Joseph. Aren’t they handsome young men? My life feels like one big locker room. I was actually put into headlock in the middle of Bass Pro today! Something about all those bows, knives and hunting equipment sent my sons into some sort of hormone induced state of delirium. In between the end cap of Big League Chewing gum and the aisle display of elk urine, things got harried. I usually love to wrestle but the timing of this match brought out the “Mama don’t play that” stare and pointer finger wagging in the air. This makes the boys laugh and then stop; since they clearly aren’t intimidated, I can only assume it is because of some form of respect they have for me. Or, maybe it’s because as I stand there feeling tough, their father is behind me, like a giant grizzly that whispers without saying a word, “Oh yeah? Go ahead and try it.” Dang it, it’s probably that.

In all seriousness for a moment, parenting isn’t for the faint hearted. The reality for us all is that, as we grow and learn, we can have seasons of being more difficult. My goals in this area are to stay the course, love them in every way I can think of, hug, kiss and tell them the good I see in them, even when they are pushing every last button of mine (I quite literally won’t drive them places unless they privately give me a kiss goodbye and say they love me), speak frankly with them but try to regularly remind myself not to fight every battle, because perspectives are developing in the teen years (it’s normal), I intentionally go after humor and laughter and I have to decide on the standards that really matter versus the ones that are just my preferences. Keep going. Love with abandon. They will come back and deeply appreciate you; I did with my parents and I was a difficult college student.

Spicy Boy-Worthy BBQ Chicken Skewers

So, one of the things I’ve been itching to start is what I’m calling “Companion Meals.” No, this does not mean I will companionably eat with you and chat endlessly about politics, which hair product eliminates dry scalp and what to do about your Aunt Hildegard who must be watched because she has almost lit her kitchen on fire twice, mysteriously and repetitively says, “Is that so,” no matter what the topic, and has really gone quite batty. What I mean by that term is recipes that allow for you to make one recipe for your family and a very similar companion meal for yourself that follows the rules of The Vibrant Life Diet, because who has margin for double the creativity, effort and time?! I hope you enjoy this bbq meal which my boys love because the bbq meat and potatoes make it hearty and tasty!

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COMPANION MEAL MENU #1  – serves 9 (8 regular and 1 Vibrant Life)

Start preparing the potato side dishes first, then the items to be grilled and, last, the fruit salad.

  • Chicken and Veggie Skewers (bbq sauce for the family and naked for us)
  • Cubed roast potatoes (family)/ sweet potatoes (us)
  • Strawberry, Pineapple and Cinnamon fruit salad for all  

Step 1: Soak the bamboo skewers for a half hour to avoid blackening and fire; also, peel, cut into 2 inch lengths and parboil the carrots listed below for 5 minutes, set aside.

Step 2: Make Sides. Preheat oven to 410 degrees.

SIDES

Roasted Potato Side

  • 25 Medium potatoes 
  • 1 large sweet potato (I eat half)
  • Light olive oil for drizzling
  •  1/2 teaspoon of coconut oil to brush on 
  • Spices: red pepper flakes, garlic, salt, pepper, chives, onion powder or a mixed seasoning used for chicken
  • Organic No-Salt Seasoning (Costco)

1. Rinse and cube potatoes, place in a large baking dish, drizzle lightly with light olive oil, flavor with sparing use of red pepper flakes, light sprinkling of each of the following: garlic powder, ground pepper, sea salt, chives and onion powder.

2. Mix well and place into a 410 degree oven. Set timer for 30 minutes and check regularly after that. These usually take 45 minutes, depending on the heat of your oven. If you have a coil heated oven, place in the middle to upper part of the oven and check regularly. They are done when they reach a golden, crispy brown (I always taste test too). You can serve these as they are or with a high fructose free ketchup, which I haven’t shopped for yet. My family likes them plain.

Vibrant Life Followers: Cube sweet potatoes, brush sparingly with 1/2 teaspoon of coconut oil and lightly season with a no salt seasoning, such as the one listed above.

Fruit Salad for All

  • 1 very large pineapple
  • 4 Pounds of Strawberries
  • Cinnamon for lightly sprinkling

Chop a fresh pineapple into small wedges using the tougher center as well, cut 4 pounds of strawberries into slices (I prefer to cut large ones in fours- down the middle both ways and smaller ones in half). Gently mix fruit together and lightly sprinkle with cinnamon. The natural sugars in the pineapple make the cinnamon delicious without sugar. Everyone may enjoy this fruit salad!

Step 3: Make Chicken Skewers and Vegetable Kebabs

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Spicy BBQ Chicken Skewers and Vegetable Kebabs 

Amount is for 8 servings for the main meal (2 vegetable kebabs and 1 chicken thigh skewer with 3 thighs per person) and 1 serving for the Vibrant Life companion meal (2 combined cubed chicken and vegetable kebabs).

  • 26 Wooden or metal kabob skewers, pre- soaked
  • Light olive oil (Perhaps, 1/3 Cup to brush on vegetables)
  • 1/2 teaspoon of Coconut Oil to brush on Vibrant Life Kebabs
  • Organic No-Salt Seasoning (Costco)
  • Salt and Pepper to taste
  • 1 Cubed chicken breast 
  • 24 Whole boneless, skinless chicken thighs (I usually use 3 thighs each per adult)
  • 24 oz. Whole mushrooms
  • 32 oz. Bag of baby squash, leave whole (Costco)
  • 3 Very large onions, cut in large 1.5-2 inch wedges or chunks  (sweet or red)
  • 2 lbs. Baby tomatoes, leave whole (you won’t use this whole amount)
  • 3 Orange and yellow bell peppers, cut in large 2 inch pieces
  • 9 large and fat carrots, prepared earlier- 5 minute parboiled and cut into 2 inch lengths

1. Place all veggies, including parboiled carrots, in a mixed pattern on 16 of the bamboo skewers. Lightly brush on a light olive oil.

2. On 8 skewers, place 3 whole chicken thighs on each, giving a little room between them.

3. On two skewers, place veggies and cubed chicken breast in an alternating pattern. Brush 1/2 teaspoon of coconut oil on these two skewers.

4. When the potatoes have 20 minutes left, begin grilling the chicken thigh skewers on medium high. Cook until the chicken juice runs clear when cut and they look a golden brown color, about 20 minutes. The last five minutes of grilling, brush the chicken in a non high fructose corn syrup bbq sauce. We tried a new one sold at Vitamin Cottage Natural Grocers called The Rib House, Medium, All Natural Gluten Free, A full Bodied, Tangy BBQ Sauce; it had a spicy smokey taste and my boys approved!

5. When the potatoes have 15 minutes left, the x2 Vibrant Life combo chicken breast and vegetable skewers can go on too, lightly seasoned in the last 10 minutes with Organic No-Salt Seasoning 

6. When the potatoes have 8 minutes left, the vegetable skewers can go on and be cooked and watched carefully.

Vibrant Life Followers: 2 cubed chicken and vegetable grilled kebabs

Enjoy! And tell me about your boys. I’d love to hear from you!

Soul Food

I love to laugh. If someone asked about my hobbies, I would say law, laughing, politics, laughing, reading, laughing, interior design, laughing, etc. It makes my list more than once! But, honestly, friends, today I am having trouble writing with my usual spunk and cheer. Why? Life can just be hard sometimes, even when there isn’t some huge reason. Some of the best wisdom I was given years ago was – “When life is hard, get up, light candles and make tea.” This was from an older woman and what was her point? When life is tough, get up, keep going, do the things that comfort you and take life beyond function to beauty and enjoyment, even when you don’t feel like it. My version would read more like go out to dinner and have a glass of excellent Argentinian Malbec with my husband and friends.

As I think about one of my recent bouts of laughter, which often involves nerdy historical jokes that nobody gets but me, I think of the look of perplexed amusement on my boys faces, as I laugh, tears rolling down my face, barely able to breathe, trying to explain, talking in a choppy and high pitched, indecipherable voice, like a crazed, lonely cat outside by the trash can. It just isn’t pretty, folks. But, laughter is good soul food.

Even on those days when your kids are fighting over everything including who apologized first, someone lets you down, ten drivers in one day flip you off, making you wonder if they all conspired together (like an organized Mafia style group who skipped their anger management AA meeting and, instead, targeted you on the road), everyone in your family is sick, the news on t.v. hurts your heart, the cashier at the grocery store treats you like an idiot, making you believe, for just a moment, that it is totally worth it to photocopy your Masters degree and straight A transcripts and drive a copy back to her…. Even on those days, God is good. Great, thanks for that platitude, Laurie. But, really, here’s why it matters. God IS good – his heart, his actions, care, intervention, honesty and loyalty are pure and good. You can count on him to care. And he never changes. So, on those days, I just talk to him in my simple way, because even with my BA degree (and B GPA) encased in gold on the wall, I am a simple girl. He hears, he cares and, somehow in a way I can’t humanly explain, it helps. It softens it for me. It comforts me to know that God is for me.

I am cracking up, as I type this. Every week I try to open with something from my life that involves heart-health and close with something from my diet and lifestyle. Annnd, in this week’s culinary portion,  I’m going to tell you about wine. Why? Because laughter, deep relationships and relaxation are actually high on the list for a healthy person. My personal goals in this area are work hard and play hard. Work hard all week long and play hard for one day. Be strict! Don’t open a single email on your play day. I think we all know ourselves; we probably either tend to overwork or overplay. I tend to overwork, not fully give myself that day of rest and then wonder why I feel unbearably overloaded and crabby. So, schedule a time every week to kick back with some loved ones, laugh and rest. One of my favorite, less expensive Argentinian dry red wines is called AR (a red blend) and is sold at Costco. The earthy, deep and smooth taste is the perfect accompaniment to good friends and laughter. It is roughly $15. I have found that a little bit of dry wine or beer hasn’t hurt my weight loss at all. If you choose a sweet drink, use it as your weekly, once-a-week treat.

Luke 1:78 “Because of the tender mercy of our God, whereby the sunrise shall visit us from on high”

Love is in the Air and a Pink Smoothy

“Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove: O no! it is an ever-fixed mark That looks on tempests and is never shaken.” -Shakespeare

This warm February in Colorado is making me dream of Maui. And, Maui is where Daniel and I finally took our honeymoon after 18 years of marriage! Shall I tell you my love stories? It’s rather scandalous but I met three of the greatest loves of my life at the same time! I mean, bear with the sap a little bit, it IS Valentine’s week after all! In December 1991, Daniel and I saw each other across the ham and cream cheese rolls at a New Year’s party. We didn’t talk until two years later but had that  pause in time where we noticed each other. Not a primal “he’s hot” moment, although I’m sure that was present in my single, 22 year old self somewhere… But, just noticed. It was Hollywood all the way, folks. The air stopped moving, the music became a low jazzy din in the background and people seemed muted and stopped desperately grabbing the Pinwheels, although that is possibly because finger foods at family parties are often very lackluster and warm.

We would finally talk two years later at a little English village church one Sunday evening during their service. Daniel immediately walked up with his wide grin and “Aussie” accent to greet me. Everyone always thinks Daniel is Australian but generation after generation have farmed the rich, brown soil of the English fen in Suffolk. That 1993 Christmas, when Daniel and I first spoke, I also realized that God was real and loved me. There was something soulfully contagious about that cold, stone chapel full of authentic, robust farmers, with the dirt and grease still in the cracks of their hands, singing their hearts out like it was a boisterous and amiable Irish pub; except, they were singing to…. God. After I was baptized, and I mean, while my left foot was still coming out of the baptismal pool, Daniel asked me on a date. From there, push the fast forward button.

Our first date was on Daniel’s parent’s farm, sloshing through the slate gray afternoon in rubber wellies and green wax coats in the rain. The date was all very earthy and English. It was a dreamy start. Daniel, on the other hand, had already planned our wedding date, apparently, as he closed the evening with, “I want to marry you.” To be clear, we’d known each other as real friends for a total of 2 weeks and this was our first date. While I laugh now because he is always decisive, at the time I was shocked. Sure enough, the man could read the situation faster than I, because here we are today, almost 20 years and 7 kids later! I should throw in at this point, that Daniel’s family introduced me to my third great love- Yorkshire Puddings! There is NOTHING healthy about them but fresh out of the oven with butter or gravy, heaven meets earth for a moment. Our wedding celebration was a romantic church gala in the back garden of an ancient, crumbling vicarage in England, with moss covered stone, white tents and sunshine peeking through serene green leaves. We were broke. He was a farmer and I was fresh out of college. So, finally, 18 years later, we would have the most amazing honeymoon in Maui, with it’s miles of hardened volcanic lava, topaz seas, balmy breeze at sunset, pineapple wine and, most of all, focused time with my husband. This Valentine’s Day, I am grateful for Daniel, my kind and genuine English farmer.

And, in light of the holiday of love, I am including a basic, green protein smoothy recipe that happens to be every rugged man’s favorite color- deep berry pink. Yeah, I know, pink seems leftover from the tacky, mauve couches of the 80s or the jello and Cool Whip, Baptist, potluck salads from a small mid-west town but, trust me on this people, if leg warmers and butterfly shirts made a comeback, pink is just around the corner! Besides, I’m not asking you to wear it. And, the berries deviously cover the giant handful of spinach. You’ll never know all that green goodness is even there! Go make it for your loved ones and tell them specifically why you are grateful that they are in your life. Often we think things but don’t say them. One of my personal health goals this year- say things, whether it’s a conflict that needs to happen, because amiably going along with everything isn’t more holy, or saying what I love in people more often. I know that my life will be more rich and healthy with that kind of authentic communication.

My goals in creating my smoothies: big handful of spinach or kale, keep my calories at 250 or below, get my protein to around 17 g or above, no sugar except natural sugars and use something to give it good flavor, because there are some seriously nasty smoothies out there!

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Berry Green Protein Smoothy:

  • 1 Cup of frozen, mixed woodland berries, Costco (make sure the berries you buy have no added sugar)
  • 2/3 C of milk (I use skim or Almond milk without Carrageenan in it).
  • 1/3 C of bulk whey protein (no flavor added, I buy mine at Vitamin Cottage, Natural Grocers).
  • 1 very large handful of spinach
  • 1 teaspoon of Chia seeds, Costco
  • 1-2 packets of Stevia (make sure this is the natural plant extract)

Blend vigorously until fully pureed and serve immediately. This makes a creamy, thick shake. Be aware that whey protein has a strong flavor. But, of the smoothies I have tasted that are within my calorie goal, this isn’t bad tasting.

Happy Valentine’s Day, reader-friends! ❤️

How I continue to choose fitness every day

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“There is pleasure in the pathless woods.” -Byron

The smaller pictures are me putting together my very first rifle last week, from springs, screws and pieces into a full gun. In the last few years, I’ve had a growing desire to become an excellent distance marksman. You know the Biathlon event in the winter Olympics? It involves cross country skiing and rifle shooting. Perhaps, it’s some latent nordic bloodline in me or something left over from when I lived in Rykkinn, Norway as a young girl and cross country skied everywhere, but that sport rocks! Biathletes, here I come! 😉 Fitness was like this for me a year ago; it was a far off dream. Life is full of function. If we aren’t careful, our dreams can become like a distant, Italian love song that is vaguely familiar in an alley somewhere outside our window. For various reasons, some of them wonderful ones like raising my seven beautiful children, I realized last year that I had stopped dreaming. And, that’s when I decided… It is time, somehow in my bustling life, to pursue my God given gifts and dreams. What are your dreams? I would love to know.

Many people, each January, choose to pursue fitness. However, the question I am constantly asked is how I stick with eating carefully and exercising consistently. That’s a tough question to answer. I mean, certainly, personality plays into it. I can definitely be as tenacious as a gerbil on a wheel, for good or bad. And, believe me, that’s not bragging because the bad side of tenacious is… ahem… stubborn. And, besides, since when is being like a gerbil a good thing? If any second graders are reading this, I shot to the top of their awesomeness list, alongside the roving Guinea Pig from their class. Here is what I came up with…

  1. I have turned exercise into rest. Does that sound crazy or what?! But, it’s true. I took two of my greatest needs- time alone and time with God- and capitalized on it. I try to go when the gym is silent. I try to run alone. I get into my mental zone and rest, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I am telling you, all of our lives are filled with too much noise; you make exercise refilling, reflective and prayerful and you will run to it!
  2. Eating: rhythm, discipline and practical help. As far as eating, three things really come to mind. First, you have to get into a rhythm and get used to what you’re able to eat. Once you’re used to it, it slowly becomes a lifestyle. I am so used to not having sugar now that a large apple can feel too sugary! Secondly, practice saying no. The more you say no to the foods you shouldn’t have, the better you get at it. Third, and probably the most important, don’t let yourself get too hungry! The most healthy eater in the World will grab for junk when they get too hungry!
  3. Retraining my mind. I have had to retrain my mind and that takes intentional work. I’ve had to retrain my thinking that foods outside my diet are all treats and only allowed once a week at the most. In our culture, we have that backwards. We think we should be able to eat anything we want anytime. We can’t do that without it eventually effecting our health. Our staple diet needs to consist of “living foods.” As far as exercise, schedule it and decide to do it. Deciding we are going to truly do something is most of the battle. I would say the number one thing that helps me keep going with it all is that I decided to do it. If you don’t, you won’t. Also, retrain your thinking regarding exercise. We live in a modern, computerized World, which encourages us to be sedentary. It helped me not only stick with it but also enjoy life more by choosing to take an active mindset. So, if it’s a beautiful day, I take my kids on a hike. If I go up the stairs, I will try to run, etc.

Even though I can hang on like a bull dog on a steak, there are many days when, just like I have to choose honesty or kindness, I have to choose tenacity. Keep dreaming and keep going!

Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself also in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.”

And Then There’s This Guy… Counting Calories 101

So, that hulk in the picture above is my eldest, football playing son, Joab. Boy, was he aptly named! His goal is just a wee bit different than ours. How? He aims to eat 4,500 calories a day to bulk up for football. 4,500! That is a male concept that I will never understand. 1. I have never in my life eaten like an absolute hog (I mean, don’t get me wrong, I can down pizza like nobody’s business but I mean eating when you feel like you’re going to puke already) and 2. I would never ever be willing to gain weight for a sport. But, our family has always been comprised of very masculine men and exceptionally feminine women. There are many days where the girls and boys almost face off, giving each other that quizical, deer in the headlights look that says, “What planet are you from again?!” I gently (because I am always a total lamb), sat my boys and husband down this week and told them God made the female gender too and they needed to give the feminine needs more consideration. That conversation came about because my eldest son wrestled my youngest and was so rough he made him cry. Additionally, somehow, during the match, ketchup was squirted on the carpet. Mama Bear came out to play. I mean, HELLO?!?! My youngest was hurt and my carpet soiled! But, every one of those men looked at ME, like the blinking “Love Experts” out of Frozen and said almost in unison,  “You need to calm down.” Even my wronged baby boy agreed! Note to self: they LIKE hurting each other.

Anyway, we should get on with the business of calorie counting. Ugh, but who wants to? Actually, once you get a great free app called My Fitness Pal and begin to log your daily intake and exercise, you will quickly get a feel for how to adjust your calories to the right place (I added this app to my iPhone). I don’t accept “friends” on that app yet, btw. But, I am going to start posting a couple times a week what I make for dinner for my family and my accompanying meal on Twitter. If you want to follow me, I can be found at @LaurieARolfe. Keep in mind, you can eat vibrant, living foods but if you’re eating too many of these, you still won’t lose weight. If you said to me, “I can’t be strict on the quality of my foods AND the quantity too,” then quality wins. But, you will lose faster, keeping the quantity of foods to the right amount.

I will give you some basic guidelines below to help but you really have to begin to use the app to grasp how simple it really is. I challenge you to try it for a week, even if you have days when you blow it eating wise. It will help you understand what you’re eating and how much.

  1. I aim for 1200 calories a day. Eating within the food guidelines I gave last time, this isn’t hard. Healthy foods have less calories, and obviously less problem calories, than unhealthy food. Tall  men might need more- 1400 calories, perhaps.
  2. Protein: I aim to exceed the recommended protein. It recommends 83 grams a day and a good day would yield about 100 grams of protein.
  3. Potassium and Salt: It is best to have Potassium a good amount higher than salt. Veggies and greens add to your Potassium. By avoiding salt, this shouldn’t be hard to achieve. You will quickly notice how much salt is in pre-fab foods. A good day would be around 2100 mg of Potassium and 1225 mg of salt.
  4. Sugar: I keep sugars as low as humanly possible. But, you will see the sugar number reach close to the recommended daily of 52 grams, if you are eating some fruit/ carbs. My goal is to stay below 50 and all natural sugars from fruit (except maybe a handful from a protein bar or smoothy).
  5. Fat: Fat should be just above half the recommended amount. Aim for 25 grams or below. We need good fats (such as my beloved Coconut oil, which I use on my hair, face, skin and to cook with) to build healthy cells. But, in the weight loss stage, keep this low. Also, aim for lean fats and try to keep saturated at 5 or below.
  6. Carbohydrates: Carbs shouldn’t exceed 100 grams. And, make them healthy carbs. Remember, keep the idea of living foods in your mind.
  7. As far as logging exercise, no matter what the calories burned equals, I still aim for a total of 1200 eaten. I log running at 106 calories burned per 10 minutes that I run (11 min. miles). As far as sit ups, pull ups, push ups and low weight/ muscle toning, I log it at 48 calories per 10 min (this might be low for high intensity workouts but I tend to be slow and struggle with muscle training). Additional note: I would recommend not having friends on this new app but use it for yourself. That way you will put your honest weight, what you eat, etc, without inhibition (although I don’t think they actually could see all of that).

Play with this app, set up your calorie goals and try to follow the guidelines above. I haven’t been able to lose weight using their recommended levels, fyi. Let me know what questions you have and, keep in mind, you will figure out the right balance of nutrients after you play with it and eat the way I mentioned in my last blog.

If you’ve been eating well and working out in the new year, this is the point when you might be getting fed up. Give yourself a treat for hard work and then…. Keep going, my friends!

How I Ate to Lose 50 Pounds

The temptation for all of us is to put on a veneer, to present ourselves like everything is always perfect and we are shiny and flawless. However, this blog isn’t just about physical health. To get to the gritty issues that are involved in the health of the human heart, honesty is required. While I hope you will find my blog very encouraging to your personal fitness, it will also tell of my journey to be healthy before God in all areas. It’s a lifelong journey, isn’t it? “Sanctified” could really be defined as “made fully healthy by God.” On that note, 2014 was a hard year. Very. Did I add the word “very” yet? During one run this week, I heard God say, “You have been running away from pain. Now it’s time to run towards me.” It’s not that God wasn’t in my line of sight but that my focus has been heavily on the pain, which I believe is ok for a season but not a great place to camp out for a long time. No matter what the provenance of the personal pain, grief is normal but pitching a tent there, getting out the Smores supplies and staying there longer than a season, isn’t what is healthiest for us.  God is asking me to release the past and make my focus him- his ways of handling things, his scripture which is full of life, his good plans for me, his qualities…. him. It was a pointed word but God is nothing but honest and I was grateful. My prayers as I run are still sometimes in the same vein- “help!” :)- but I am intentionally making the Lord my focus, laying the rest down. As King Hezekiah did with his letter (2nd Kings 19:14), I am spreading the hard stuff at God’s feet. Life always has its trouble; however, the biggest thing happening to us isn’t circumstances, but what is being built in our hearts. I choose a healthy heart. Moving my camp to green pastures.

“One thing I do: Forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:14

Vibrant Life Diet:

Quick overview- Eat regularly (5 times a day) smaller amounts, as close to nature as possible, lots of greens, water and lean protein. Pursue an active, outdoorsy mindset.

So, have you been running? How has it gone? I would love to know! Guess what? Many friends and family told me they started this week; some ran despite years of vehement proclamations about the evils of the sport. That’s awesome!

There are two angles to how I ate to lose 50 pounds: quality and quantity. Quantity is actually a big enough subject on its own, pardon the pun, that I will broach that one next time! If you change the quality of what you eat alone, you will see a pretty immediate change in how you feel and weigh after a few weeks. Keep running and now also add in changing the quality of the food you’re eating. As far as quality of food, let me just write a broad list of rules to start with and give you a couple days worth of eating examples below. Keep in mind, as you read the “Don’t Eat” list, that I allowed myself one treat a week from this list (When I was trying to get past a weight loss plateau, I ate one treat every two weeks). Eating this way is more repetitive at first but, as you get comfortable with knowing what you’re eating, you will get more creative.

Don’t Eat List:

  1. No sugar
  2. No breads, grains, including noodles, etc.
  3. No cheese (Once a week-ish I will allow myself 1-2 teaspoons for a Mexican meal)
  4. Low Potatoes, carrots, corn (sugary naturals)- very tiny portions or leave out. I would leave out unless I had that as my fruit for the day.
  5. No red meat, except elk, very lean reds
  6. No canned or preserved goods (canned beans, chips, crackers, etc)
  7. No added salt (Salt can cause you not to lose as you would want to)
  8. No egg yolks

Do Eat List (mostly shop the fresh sections of the grocery store)

  1. All fresh fruit and vegetables (some with limitations, you can go pretty crazy on green veggies and salad. I ate a lot of apples this year)
  2. Chicken breasts are your best friends 🙂
  3. Elk, lean reds
  4. Fish (I buy the frozen Cod from Costco or Sams, defrosts in cool water in minutes)
  5. Protein smoothies (Will give a couple basic recipes under recipe link at the top of the blog soon)
  6. Water, water, water, water… Have I said it enough? This is one of the number one things you can do to improve your health and increase your weight loss. I recommend 14 cups a day. This means, set a timer, if necessary, to drink a cup every hour you are awake! Water not only fills your stomach, moves out toxins, and helps you with weight loss but it also improves your hair, skin, nails, etc. Drink water to look and feel better!
  7. Peanut or almond butter (in limited amounts, 1 teaspoon with celery for a snack)
  8. Almonds (on alternate days to peanut butter, 15 almonds for a snack, while healthy these are high in fat)
  9. Fat free plain greek yoghurt (watch your salt on this one. You want your potassium to always be a decent amount higher than your salt. I have half a cup with chia seeds and stevia)
  10. Egg whites
  11. Morningstar breakfast sausage (Use one with 5 egg whites and veggies to make an omelet, Morningstar is sold at Costco and King Soopers). I have three sacrifices I made during the weight loss portion of this diet, that I don’t condone as long term “healthy eating.” This is one of them. But, my goal, in the beginning, was sticking with it to lose weight. This provides a speedy breakfast protein. You have to weigh the quality of your food and decide for yourself. I will explain in later posts what I eat longer term for vibrant health.
  12. Oatmeal (1/2- 2/3 Cup)
  13. Protein bars. This is the second of those sacrifices to lose weight but not to be used long term or part of my ideal diet. Only eat protein bars that are low sodium, sugar and fat (I used Pure Protein sold at Costco, Sams and King Soopers. Chocolate chip ones are decent). No more than one a day. I use in a pinch when I have to be out and about. This is not a great, healthy choice but is one thing I had to do for busy days when out. Now that I’ve lost most of my weight, I have almost entirely cut this out. If you plan really, really well, you can skip this source of speedy protein.
  14. Sweet potato, brown rice or potatoes. I tend to eat the first one. If I have any of these, I have half a potato or 1/2 cup of rice with dinner. BUT, if I do this, I don’t have oatmeal for breakfast. The idea is to keep these carbs per day low. I essentially allow myself one fruit and oatmeal or one fruit and one of these at dinner.
  15. Alcohol- Ok, all the experts will say, “no alcohol,” because it does turn to sugar in your body. I allowed myself a limited amount of dry red wine or a beer once a week. Don’t overdo alcohol but don’t overly stress it either. Also, you won’t lose weight drinking sugary drinks, like sweet wines and Margaritas.

Well, those are the basic guidelines. What do you think? It is pretty extreme but I found that this combined with running will yield extreme results! The big idea is to eat 5 total smaller “meals” through the day (I try not to eat past 7 at night), low fat, low sodium, low sugar, low carbs in your choices, the things God clearly made are the best choices, lots of lean meats (you want regular protein to spur on your metabolism), lots and lots of greens (I eat tons of spinach and Kale), avoid salt (get used to meals without it), no sweets (except the God-made kinds- fresh pineapple, etc), and go crazy on water.

The number one thing I had to get used to at first… When you are eating more fresh foods, you will, at first, not feel as full. But, once you get used to not having that overstuffed feeling that breads and grains give you, you will not feel hungry. It doesn’t take long to get used to. If you find you aren’t full enough, stick with chicken for both lunch and dinner for awhile. Chicken fills you more than fish. You could, even, have small amounts of chicken for snacks if that helps. I don’t find I want to eat chicken that often but I had a day or two when I did it to feel full enough.

Example of 2 days of eating well:

Day 1:

Breakfast:

Omelet:

5 Egg whites

1 Morningstar sausage

Small handful of grape tomatoes

Handful of spinach

Snack:

Protein smoothy

Lunch:

Spinach salad with tomatoes, cucumbers, bell peppers, etc.

1, 3-4 oz. piece of chicken breast (size of a computer mouse)

Balsalmic vinegar or lemon squeezed on top

Snack:

One apple (could put 1 teaspoon of peanut butter on the slices)

Dinner:

Cod fried in 1/2 teaspoon of coconut oil, lemon squeezed on top (there is a delicious herb blend sold at Costco that doesn’t have any salt or sugar in it. I will get the name of it for the next blog).

Normandy veggies

1/2 large sweet potato plain

Day 2:

Breakfast:

2/3 Cup of oatmeal

Small handful of blueberries added to it

Sometimes, I will add a couple teaspoons of whey protein and mix it in the oatmeal, Can use Stevia to sweeten -it’s a plant extract & low glycemic

Snack:

Celery sticks with 1 teaspoon of peanut butter

Lunch:

Cod with lemon squeezed on top

Spinach salad with creative veggie toppings- lemon or Balsamic on top

Snack:

Protein smoothy

Dinner:

Grilled chicken breast

green vegetables of your choice

Remember, lean protein, green veggies and water are your best friends! I will give more interesting recipes later. This is just to get you going with healthy eating. Eating is so social, isn’t it? Plan ahead so that you can have treats when others are eating cake. For example, I will have blueberries and Stevia mixed in to a 1/2 cup of plain fat free greek yoghurt, sprinkled with chia seeds. Also, eating out is not great, although really fun, dangit! 🙂 BJs has low calorie, heathier meals on a segment of their menu. Or, consider just going out for a drink. But, any eating out involves lots of sodium and quite a bit of fat. If you have to eat out, go for salads with protein on top and request that the chicken be cooked without any seasonings/salt or for a fish meal without seasonings/ salt/crusts at all and veggies without anything added.

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I cannot wait to hear how you are all doing working on your health in 2015! Keep going! Press on to the goal… The upward call of God in Christ.

Where it begins, December 2013…

“…but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” IS 40:31

A year ago, I found myself overweight, often feeling like, “the way I look and feel is not who I really am,” feeling like life strain and stress was ubiquitous and with seven beautiful kids and the body to show for it (Ok, so, some days I feel like we are remaking The Hunger Games but when I tuck them in at night, they are, after all, beautiful kids who haven’t killed each other). I would mentally hearken back to my fit, cheerleading days like Uncle Rico sadly reliving his football stardom on Napoleon Dynamite.

Some people are advocates for the idea that if we eat properly (fresh, “Paleo” or close to nature type food) that we will go down to our proper size naturally. However, I can tell you, after eating that way for 7 years and not getting rid of the weight, if you are overweight, you DO have to focus on getting rid of it more than that. Where I would agree with those people is that a huge percentage of what can improve your health and decrease your weight has to do with the quality of what you eat.

This blog explains my journey from overweight and unhealthy to 50 pounds lighter, fit and happy with my life habits. It is also full of thoughts and insights, as I have them, about the health of the whole person. Because that is my goal- health on all fronts.

I will obnoxiously say this throughout the blog (obnoxious because it sounds like your classic pharmaceutical add); I am not a medical professional and I’m not responsible for the way your body and unique medical condition respond to my suggestions. Please consult your doctor before starting any of this.

As I consider what I did that allowed me to lose 50 pounds (as of this New Year’s Eve), four key things stick out:

1. Sweat-  I worked out 4-6 times a week (the sweaty, not the cute kind).

2. Quality- I watched the content of what I ate meticulously and tracked it.

3. Quantity- i watched the quantity of what I ate, 1200 calories a day.

4. Drive- I stayed motivated because working out became a break.

I will slowly explain each of these elements in depth but I’ve decided to break this down into small steps, so that it feels do-able and not overwhelming. If you are interested, hang with me and I will explain everything from how I track what I eat quickly and easily to how important forgiveness has been to my own well being and joy.

In my quest to lose weight, the very first thing I started doing was working out. I planned out 5-6 times during the week when I could go to the gym (make sure they are truly good times or your tendency will be to make excuses). Essentially, I had to get past the excuse stage to the determined posture. If you don’t decide that you want a lifestyle change, it won’t happen but will fizzle into the air, like the champagne you had on New Year’s Eve. Working out begets working out; the more you workout, the more you will want to workout.

For me, I decided that to lose significant weight, I had to run. Everything within me was like, “Blech! The dreaded running! Noooo running!” I ran 2/13ths of a mile my first time out (that is twice around a small track). I know, lame. But, who cares?!? I started! Each visit to the gym, I would try to increase by one lap. Slowly, and I mean at a snail’s pace, I built up to 6.5 miles and ended up actually deciding to decrease it back to 3-4 miles each time, because fitness was my top goal, not a half marathon, bucket list moment.

Getting there is most of the battle. If you just get yourself to the gym, you will workout! Another thing, I’m now a regular and I can tell you, most people, up to 99%, run less than a mile. Don’t be intimidated; just go slow and steady. Also, listen to good music that appeals to your mood, sometimes that means slow, worshipful tunes for me. I chose membership at a gym with a padded, indoor track. That allows me to easily track my mileage, run in all weather and is easy on my joints.

Some things that helped me:

1. Get good equipment: Running shoes, an iPod, earbuds & arm band with your favorite music, spandex style pants or shorts and a snug fitting tank (you will feel “held together”), good running bra, etc.

2. No early mornings! I don’t workout first thing in the morning generally. It doesn’t work with my schedule and it’s really tough to get there early when it’s cold out. I tend to run after lunch. I like the quiet track and that I feel awake and ready. I realize experts say that working out before you eat first thing in the morning is best for your body but this is all about helping yourself to keep going because that is more important.

3. Fuel- I eat something light about 45 minutes to an hour before I run. This gives me fuel without my stomach being full of it when I start.

4. Reward yourself! Give yourself little rewards when you’re done. For me, my rewards were coffee, an apple, and scriptures (on little pieces of paper) when I was done.

5. No kids! When you’re first starting, don’t take your kids to the gym with you. Begin to build your workout time as your time, a time to have a break and a time to focus and pray.

6. Worship/prayer/ and good music. Listen to music that will inspire you. Worship and pray away your life strains as you run. The track became like a haven with God for me. This is part of what helped me stick to it. I almost always listened to awesome worship music, I got in “the zone” and would pray and lose track of time. I walked in with life stress making my muscles tight and left feeling awesome, both physically and mentally/ emotionally/ spiritually.

7. Bathroom and water- Go to the bathroom right before you run. I generally drink a mouthful right before I start and then drink again freely when I’m done with 3-4 miles.

8. Stretch before and after your run.

9. Recovery and pushing through- As you can imagine, after years of very little in the way of a true workout, I was sore most nights. My shin splints were killer, I didn’t buy good shoes to start with creating terrible blisters, and I would get very sore and tight where my pelvis meets the tops of my legs. It will pass; keep going! I ran through it all and now I don’t get any of it. More on this later but I find people tend to worry too much about small aches and pains. My thinking is that being overweight long term is worse for my health than running with a few aches. Obviously, you should pay attention to serious pain. But, decide from the beginning to push through. Tell yourself, “You’re not that bad. You’re ok. Keep going.”

10. Chiropractic care- Work with a great chiropractor, if you are able to, and get adjusted, particularly when you can feel your gait is off. Shameless plug for our good friend and chiropractor, Jeff Henry of Alpine Chiropractic, Colorado Springs. He is a caring and very knowledgeable chiropractor.

Have I reached my ultimate goal? Not yet! I told my husband when I started, “I want awesome, bikini- worthy abs!” The next stretch of this journey for me involves adding core strength and strength training in. That part is more difficult because it’s not as therapeutic and harder to pray while I work on strength. But, I will blog more about my whole approach to working out after I cover the basics that led to my weight loss. For now, I recommend you run, slowly slowly building up to 35-40 minutes 5-6 times a week. Start the 5-6 times a week habit now but keep the runs very easy, slowly increasing.

I hope you are inspired to get yourself to the gym and create some new life patterns and habits. Remember, I now consider myself a runner and I love it but I started at the “dreading it” point. Just go do 2 laps today! And, 3 tomorrow! Start there! Take one tiny step at a time; you will be so happy you did. Not only do I feel fit and fantastic because of weight loss, but I also truly feel I have learned to wait on the Lord in a new way and he has renewed my strength. It is all worth it. Next blog… how I ate to lose 50 pounds!